As there are different human faces, so are we naturally different. This distinctness is indicative not only in our biological and chemical components like finger print, (DNA), but also in personality, attitude, interest, and even natural aptitude. Most times, by virtue of cultural influences geared toward undermining them, a high percentage of women get surprisingly apologetic for bringing their impressive natural abilities to the fore. Thus, such strengths seem to be viewed as deficiencies which deserve to be veiled lest they themselves get queried. The widespread marginalisation of women conditions a good number of them to consciously or unconsciously develop feelings of inadequacy, which in turn elicits a consideration to kowtow to the other half of the society virtually at every given point. In so far as showing reverence to those whom it is due isn’t misplaced, de-emphasising your great potentials in the process is inappropriate. This piece argues against playing the “sorry” card for being you as a woman.
Myles Munroe, in Understanding Your Potentials: Discovering the Hidden You, underscored that the richest place in the world is the cemetery due to the “unused talents” and “untapped potentials” which abound there. This implies that as a woman, your talents, strengths, potentials, or gifting are meant to be deployed where relevant and maximised—not doing so would be folly. It is a thing of joy to see embedded capabilities in oneself, discerned at the place of self-discovery, be used in meeting people’s needs and attracting commendation. Florence Nightingale, who is widely regarded as one who blazed the trail in the nursing profession, didn’t stoop low to apologise for the difference she was making with her talents; neither should you. Never feel guilty for being talented. Never apologise for being smart. Don’t create excuses for why you are successful at something. Just stay humble and be grateful for all you have which tends to grow!
One of the United Nations Sustainable Development Goals set to be attained by 2030 is promoting and ensuring girl-child education. In fact, it was a subject of discussion in the just-concluded 72nd UN general assembly, wherein One ambassadors from Nigeria actively participated. Among other things, this is suggestive of an understanding of the inherent value of women and the need for feminine exposure to platforms that would empower and incline them to contributing to a better world. Regardless of your past and what has been said to you, you as a woman have immense potentials that need to be ignited for manifestation. It is unreasonable to think knowing your worth, dreaming big, and working toward its actualisation is a mistake requiring you to ask for pardon, because they are in harmony with your womanly nature. Dismissing this makes you a prospective enricher of the cemetery. Would you want that?
However, the make-up of humans is overlaid with golden potentials, women inclusive, waiting to be mobilised. It is your primary duty to midwife these tendencies of greatness without remorse. So, free yourself, live your life as a beautiful woman from the heart, stop apologising for who you are, and start loving the difference-making you!