“Wow! You are looking good and seem ready to pepper them. Carry on babe,” Jade complimented a friend who opened the office door of where she and I were in to check on a lecturer, thus interrupting our ongoing interesting chat. Taken aback by the use of that word “pepper” as a verb in a sentence expressing admiration, I wondered what she meant but remained unbothered. After some inquiry much later, I found out that such verbal usage of “pepper” was a trending way of saying “bedazzle them” or “blow their minds.” Similarly, some women today fancy the idea of being the attention of all eyes and getting bathed with words of adulation. It’s just their way of having fun. Whereas some could have other ideas, which sometimes can be hardly dissociated from the said, like travelling, reading romantic novels, making-up, listening to music, fashion, and so on. In as much as you may want to “pepper” them and girls just want to have fun, striking a balance between that and achieving difference-making dreams, is paramount. That forms the thrust of this discussion.
Women daring to dream is a function of acquaintance of the need to do so, and relocating it from the mind to reality demands maximum focus and efforts. That is to say, strategising, planning, dotting i’s and crossing t’s, persisting, and always keeping one’s eyes on the prize are essentials that must be religiously stuck to, giving no chance for the infiltration of distractions. Bearing in mind “All work and no play make Jack a dull boy,” it is relevant to at least once-in-a while relax, chill, “pepper” them without throwing morality to the wind, go on that holiday, see those movies which summons your interest and makes you giggle all day long, and relieve yourself of the stress which unsettles you. To enjoy this break time does not necessarily translate to you wholly conforming to the prevalent ways in which it is done in your society.
More so, even as a woman who knows her onions and where she is heading to, being nothing other than yourself in creating and enjoying those moments of priceless fun is part of exhibiting your uniqueness as a woman. Like a vehicle being refueled, it rejuvenates and fires you up to try again or achieve more. Nonetheless, you must be wary of immersing yourself in fun so much that making your presence positively felt in the world is neglected and vice-versa. Finding a balance then becomes fundamental and instrumental to leading a fruitful, exciting life devoid of hanging in the balance. Overemphasizing either of these elements (realizing your dream and having fun) can degenerate to psychological deficiencies like depression, discontentment or cause your obscurity as a woman who is rarely taken seriously.
However, consistent achievement of difference-making targets set is admirable, as it tends to single you out as a woman from the crowd and disproves the perception of women as peripheral. Undertaking this in an atmosphere of fun enables a much-needed balance for living a memorable life with little regrets.